002 ☄ video

[nohometown]

Because of the taboos surrounding anal sex, I find there is much people don't know about it, not to mention a great deal of misinformation on the subject. I thought I would offer some advice so that anyone engaging in the process will have a more enjoyable experience.

Adequate preparation is essential. Be sure to stimulate the anus beforehand, through rimming or gentle fingering or other contact. Making the sphincters relax will greatly reduce any discomfort you might feel. Relaxation in general is key. Take deep breaths, and take your time. Lubricant is also extremely important for reducing friction and making penetration easier. Your lubricant should be water or silicone based when using a latex condom. I personally recommend silicone based.

As for the sex itself, positions where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest: kneeling, lying on your back or on your side, will lead to more comfortable sex, or will be a good position to start from. This position will straighten out the anal canal and the pubo-rectal sling will draw back to allow smoother entry.

Whether your partner is male or female, massage or otherwise stimulate their genitals during intercourse. After you've achieved mutual orgasm, when exiting your partner's anal canal, allow your partner's orgasm to terminate and their rectum to relax before withdrawing.

A healthy rectum will contain fecal matter only when the bowel is full, so in fact, there is little need for anal douching. If you do feel the need to do so, only use plain, clean water at room temperature. Bear in mind, however, that douching can irritate the anal lining, even if one only uses water. Using another liquid will make the risk of irritation greater.

These are just some basic points. If you have any further questions, please ask, and I'll do my best to answer them.

[Just what everyone needs: a giant man dressed all in leather giving anal sex advice.]

Comments

[ronderotarel]

Would you give me a practical demonstration? I've had some bad experiences before. [And no one ever died for asking.]

[nohometown]

No, I would not.

[This isn't good. As someone who had a less than ideal childhood and a very irresponsible guardian, Sephiroth feels he should take some action, as a responsible adult.]

However, if you'd like to speak to someone about your unpleasant experiences, I'll try to help.

[ronderotarel]

It was many years ago. No point in talking about the fucking past. [Plus everyone seems to want to ask him about his abuse, for some reason.]

Do you have any advice about how to make a person who's shy and afraid of contact stop being like that?

[nohometown]

Untrue. The past affects the present and the future. It is of great importance and has a large impact on our current behavior and choices. It might be beneficial to discuss it.

[He does deal with younger, inexperienced personnel who are intimidated by him.]

I don't know the individual in question, but it's possible they need reassurance. I would advise you to be understanding and patient. Thinking of it as making them "stop being like that" is not necessarily productive.

[ronderotarel]

I don't want to talk about my fucking dead Father, I don't see why everyone is so interested in him in this city. [But he does like to hear you talk about the past and the future and all those things]

I just want to help him! The last time I kissed him he nearly had a stroke. He doesn't let anybody close to him.

[nohometown]

I believe they are concerned and want to assist you. It's a natural human impulse.

Generally, such a reaction means someone did not wish to be kissed, but as I said, I don't know him. Some people are naturally less social than others.

[ronderotarel]

If you ever come over to my Manor, I'll introduce you. Do you have a place to stay? [He's recently picked the habit of inviting strangers over to his house.]

[nohometown]

I wouldn't be adverse. [He's not a warm man, but he's not going to completely refuse the invitation. Politeness wins out.]

Yes, I have an apartment.