poly_chromatic | a c t i o n ][cursed][ 008

The network has certainly churned out a number of responses today, but I feel there has been a common misconception that should be addressed.

Sex is not simple.

There is no formula of in-out-in-out that achieves a magical simultaneous orgasm. What you get out of a sexual encounter is highly dependent on what you go into it knowing about yourself; at times, that may not be much, and that is perfectly acceptable. You have every right to be unsure, to try something just for the sake of seeing if it might be something you want to try again- and if not, then no harm done! There is a certain self-consciousness that permeates the realm of sexual encounters; a worry that if one asks questions they will seem incompetent or undesirable in some fundamentally flawed way, and that does nothing but hinder what could otherwise be a good time for all parties involved.

Intimacy is not necessarily defined by the parameters of a long-term relationship, but rather the level of honesty you achieve with the other person-- or persons, if that happens to be the case. Sex is messy and complicated and oftentimes not as linear as books, or television, or even our friends would like us to believe.

Sex is not a performance art, it is an endeavor in satisfaction. Not knowing is forgivable- sometimes you just can't tell- but not asking, not making sure you've completely satisfied your partner in every way you are capable of and comfortable with, is selfish and infinitely unattractive. Rest assured, you may not be able to tell the difference between bravado and skill, but your partner will.

So ask. Ask in the act. Ask after the act. Ask over some kebabs in the park-- just make sure that you give as good as you get.

(( ooc: backdated to sometime last night! ))

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And no making assumptions.

[ Which, considering everything Yusuf just said, may go without saying... but in her experience, it doesn't. So. ]

Where there is an adage there is a reason.

Everyone thinks I'll break in half.

[ Not just sex-wise, either. Strong winds, illegal dream jobs, you name it. ]

[ Strong winds would just carry you away, silly. ]

Then it is a good thing you have few qualms correcting them.

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I'd say you should be ashamed of yourself, but so should the rest of this place.

There are kids here, you know.

[ Genuinely confused. ]

Yes, I know that. Forgive me if I do not quite understand what that has to do with anything...?

Don't you think a child could read this? Look at the post above you. You're talking about sexual satisfaction.

Of course they can, it was meant to be informative. I do not believe I said anything that was in any way explicit...

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It is art, however.

Is the household in danger of you getting interested in sex painting again?

I had a brief stint of it in Paris on accident.

It's not my fault if it ended up being an entirely genius idea in motion.

You know I find the irony in that almost overwhelming.

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What a well-thought out discourse on the topic.

It is something of a pet peeve of mine, though I am not usually so inclined to lecture the general populace.

Today seems to be the day for it.

Yes well, I am not quite sure if that was the catalyst or if I am [ Yusuf takes a moment, to inventory something entirely unquantifiable. ] Under the influence of a curse.

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How considerate.

It is a courtesy they fail to teach in higher education.

[She laughs a little.] I doubt that they teach much about any of this.

Depending on where you attend and how open you are to the conversation, you might get lucky. But usually, yes, it is a rather closed subject.

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[Jack isn't quite as flustered by this post as he is by the others, but that isn't really saying a whole lot.]

Er. Is that really...something you should talk about over food?

Kebabs are never a bad idea, so the logic follows that a conversation with kebabs in hand would not be a bad idea. [ Yusuf doesn't need to pause to know the follow up to that statement. ] Though I have not found any kebab stalls here, unfortunately.

It can be simple. Would you like to try?

Are you out to prove a point?

That sex can be simple.

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