#48 - [video]

[totallyinaband]

[Hey guys! Stephen Stills is all up in your device. He's seated in his room, an extremely serious look on his face. This is serious business, okay?]

So I'm not going to tell you guys where babies come from, or which bit goes in which other bit, because either you know that or you're too young to find out. I grew up in Southern Ontario in the 90s, and the sex ed curriculum there is pretty... thorough. But there's one thing no one ever talks about.

If you think you might be gay, don't just fucking ignore it and hope it'll go away. It's not going to change just because you're afraid your parents are going to freak out, or all your friends will ditch you. Or, you know, worse. And for god's sake, don't wait until you're 24 years old to work it out and realise you wasted four years of your life trying to convince yourself you're into a girl you clearly don't have any interest in.

I think maybe if someone'd told me that when I was 15, my life so far would have gone really differently.

[Stephen takes a second before he leans forward and shuts his device off.]

Comments

[ronderotarel]

My Father was gay! He never freaked out. [He was happy to the point that he fucked his own son, but that's another story.]

[totallyinaband]

At lot of my friends back home didn't either. Kinda depends on the person.

[ronderotarel]

Is there a man you love? [The "boyfriend" concept is too modern for someone from Victorian England.]

[valentineluke]

I had wondered when this subject would come up. The others should soon follow.

Hmm.

[totallyinaband]

Yeah?

[valentineluke]

Presentation's a bit dull for such an important topic.

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[sempreadagio]

It's good advice.

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[totallyinaband]

I hope so. I kinda figure most people know it already, but it would have helped me.

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[sempreadagio]

Yeah, where I grew up it was a big thing that nobody talked about.

[signatures]

Alright?

[totallyinaband]

Yeah. Why wouldn't I be?

[signatures]

Only checking in.

[designedtoparty]

You wouldn't've spend years pining after an underage Asian chick for one thing.

[totallyinaband]

Do I have to beat this one into you?

I wasn't interested in Knives. Obviously.

[designedtoparty]

No. But you thought you were.

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[likeboudica]

Why should you ignore merriness?

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[totallyinaband]

The other kind of gay.

[ voice ]

[likeboudica]

There is another kind?

[private text]

[othersdie]

How do you know whether or not you're gay?

...If I can ask that. You're not obligated to answer.

[private text]

[totallyinaband]

No, it's cool, man. I didn't figure it out until pretty recently. It seems like some guys know right from the get-go. But it took me until the first person I really fell for.

[private text]

[othersdie]

So you have to fall in love before you know?

[thewildone]

Would you really have listened to anyone at 15?

[totallyinaband]

Maybe not. Guess it depends who it was that said it.

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[iwatchtjhooker]

Really inspiring, Stephen. Thanks.

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[totallyinaband]

I try, man.