[He's not a secret out of shame. He's a secret because he makes himself a secret -- because the person he is with her is so different from the person he is with everyone else. If he was reliable or predictable, or if she really really understood what was happening between them, she wouldn't mind the others knowing. But it's tenuous and ill-defined and she can never be certain who he will be, only that when it's just the two of them, in the privacy of his apartment, he's somebody she can be with.]
Private
Okay. I'll let you get back to your soup.